Mark Mason talks about inferiority feelings. I cosign. The problem is not about feeling inferior. Not on its own. Feeling inferior / superior goes by hand with winning / losing in dating. If you think you did a fantastic job but when results come you're last on the chain, you're to feel inferior. If you won the match, you feel confident. If you have sanity, your feelings correlate with dating reality. The thing is not what you feel but where it pushes you.

So how about when the feeling is painful in relationships. Say, your heart is burning on the fire. Now what? Suppress the pain? Block it? Ignore it? Get distracted? Buy ice to compensate for the burns? Come up with justification that makes it OK to get hurt? Blame partner? Personalize like the love is EVIL? Hate your own vulnerability? Deny the whole thing? Chop your arm out? What does that pain make you do in dating?

And how about if the feeling is pleasurable? Do you hold it? Rationalize it? Say you deserve it? Integrate it firmly with ego? Protect it behind walls? Pile it up to distract from your other hand burning? Use as compensation? Condition yourself to it as reward for forced dating? Keep building on top? The more you hold to feelings, the more you lose control over dating reality. Structures collapse.

How to get better? Leave the fucking feelings alone. Let them be. Free them. Let them take charge. No place too high, no place too low. Feelings are there for a reason. Embrace them. Honor all feelings. The more you feel, the wiser your emotional body gets, the more emotional intelligence, the better you'll perform in relationships. Even if all you feel is pain. Go to the source. Change dating reality.